It’s pretty simple and basically positive self talk. With Rey’s help, I’ve identified my characteristics, i.e. my cards; the exercise is just to repeat them and embrace them throughout the day. The important part is not to arbitrarily divide the characteristics into the categories of good and bad, but embrace them all. For example, many people view sensitivity as a character flaw, so when saying their cards they might leave out that characteristic. That contributes to low self-esteem because they’re denying a real part of who they are.
My cards, though I’m embarrassed to share them, (because I have low self-esteem), are:
- I’m smart
- I’m sensitive
- I’m pretty
- I’m a hard worker
- I have common sense
- I’m honest
- I’m funny
Rey insists the last two aren’t characteristics I can claim, but he doesn’t know what he’s talking about.
Saying my cards has really helped me; helped me to accept who I am. The tough part has been getting past the guilt that accompanies the praising. For instance, constantly telling yourself throughout the day that you’re smart and pretty seems arrogant and shallow. But the truth is, every person should think they possess those qualities. Part of self-esteem is being able to acknowledge the inherent worth we all have.
At any rate, it’s much better than beating yourself up all day, which was previously one of my favorite past-times.